What Happens When You Stop Chasing and Start Allowing?
We live in a culture that glorifies the chase—hustling for success, forcing outcomes, and believing that control equals results. But the real power lies in allowing instead of chasing.
What if, by surrendering control, you actually align yourself with everything you desire?
Too many people mistake surrender for passivity. Surrender is actually an active state of trust—trust in yourself, trust in divine timing, and trust that what is meant for you is already on its way.
Let’s explore what happens when you stop chasing and start allowing, and how shifting your energy from force to flow can change everything.
Why Chasing Creates Resistance
What is the energy of desperation in manifestation?
When you’re chasing something, you’re signaling to the universe that you don’t have it. This reinforces lack and creates an energy of resistance.
By focusing on what does not exist yet, you are reinforcing your lack mindset, which creates more results that reflect that lack.
It’s a classic example empowering of a poverty mindset. When you embody lack, you vibrate at a low level, probably stressful, energy. This isn’t spooky-woo-woo, stuff, you know that – you’ve experienced your thoughts creating stress, frustration and other reactions.
Creating from desperation? Welcome to experiencing more desperation.
➡ Shift: Instead of chasing, align your energy with the feeling of already having what you desire.
How does control limit manifestation?
When you try to control every step of the process, you block the infinite ways the universe can deliver what you want.
The Universe knows vastly more than you do. Just accept it – the Universe is unlimited and abundant. You live in a Universe of Pure Potentiality.
Request with specificity, then let go of all control as to how your request is answered.
I like to use the idea of ordering at a restaurant to illustrate this idea:
You place your order with specificity. The kitchen must know if you want chicken, beef, vegetarian. Do you have any allergies that must be considered? Do you hate mayonnaise? (I’m with you on that one!)
Once your order is made, you must let go of all control as to how your meal will appear in front of you.
You have the right to send it back if it has mayo. That’s not refusing what the Universe has delivered. The Universe could be testing you to see if you’ll honor your boundaries.
➡ Shift: Move from control to trust—allow space for unexpected opportunities and divine timing.
What is the Law of Non-Resistance?
What you resist, persists. The more you struggle against something, the more energy you feed into it, keeping it alive.
This is related to our first question above. You will get more of what you focus your attention on.
Embrace the idea that everything is working FOR you, instead of against you. What opportunities present themselves when you stop looking for obstacles?
➡ Shift: Instead of resisting challenges, embrace them as part of the unfolding journey and watch how quickly they resolve.
How to Shift into Allowing
1. Embody the Energy of Receiving
Instead of asking “How do I make this happen?”, shift to “How can I open myself to receive?”
We are all creating our own reality and lives. Your perceptions of what is happening around you creates how you are experiencing events as either hindering you or helping you.
“We suffer more often in imagination than in reality.” – Seneca
“We suffer not from the events in our lives but from our judgment about them.” – Epictetus
“What oppresses and scares us? It is our own thoughts, obviously.” – Epictetus
➡ Practice: Each morning, set the intention: “I am open to receiving unexpected blessings today.”
2. Trust the Timing of Your Life
When you trust divine timing, you remove anxiety about when things will happen.
➡ Practice: Repeat the affirmation: “Everything is unfolding perfectly for me.”
3. Follow Inspired Action, Not Forced Action
Aligned action feels natural and joyful. Forced action feels like struggle.
Slow down. Stop living in reaction.
Tune into your intuition before taking action. What does your body’s wisdom tell you that your heart or head may be over-feeling or over-thinking?
➡ Practice: Before taking action, check in: Does this feel aligned or am I forcing it?
Final Thoughts: Surrender as Your Superpower
Surrendering isn’t about giving up—it’s about shifting from force to flow. When you trust the process and stop chasing, you create space for true alignment, ease, and success.
If you’re ready to release control and step into effortless receiving, hypnotherapy and coaching can help. Together, we’ll rewire subconscious blocks and align your energy with flow.
